But what I soon realized was that sometimes the best way to date is to go off script.So that’s what this column, Undressed, is about: gender, social norms, dating rules — and what happens when we break them.The late Tony Randall was 75 when he married his 24-year-old wife. Playboy founder Hugh Heffner has several girlfriends, most of them half a century his junior. The problem with this is that unofficial guidelines are exactly that.

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Not my ideal meet cute, but whatever — and it made me wonder: is the old norm of older man with younger woman out?

I decided to find out by pulling data on Ok Cupid messaging between straight daters from 2013 to today — so I looked at over 10 million “successful” conversations, defined as convos that included at least at four messages back and forth with contact exchange.

I almost forgot about the Princeton Mom until last month, when international headlines went nuts over the new French president elect and his wife.

Brigitte Trogneux met Emmanuel Macron when he was 15 and she was his 39-year-old drama teacher, already married with three kids.

If we graduated without a future husband in tow, the men in our class would forgo us for younger, dumber women.

She advised we start the search as early into college as possible. If he was sour over being stuck with a crusty upperclassman like me, he didn’t show it.For every person saying “just go for it and be happy,” there are realistic considerations. Yet soon after that, the slippery slope becomes 44 and 24, which can lead to Lolita situations and other felonies. If a man is 40, is dating a pair of 20-year-olds equivalent to dating one 40-year-old? From a brag and go high-five your friends standpoint, yes.For one thing, most people do not want their relationship to be the equivalent of gossip tabloid fodder among their own social circles. If the man is a billionaire, it comes with the territory.When I was a junior in college, a woman called “The Princeton Mom” wrote into our school newspaper telling undergraduate women to “Find a husband on campus before you graduate.”“Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out,” she said.We had more important things to worry about, like the alarming decay rate of our attractiveness.A date I recently went on showed the woman to be intelligent, sweet, accomplished, and attractive. In fact, the entire point of becoming a billionaire is for men to be unbound by the rules of everyday life that constrain the rest of us.