Abuse in teen dating
“I feel that there’s a gap that needs to be filled …
there need to be safe houses for teenagers who are scared and whose families have been threatened, so they don’t have to run away,” she said.
Segovia was a straight-A Catholic schoolgirl who attended church every Sunday, but she soon stopped attending both church and school shortly after meeting her boyfriend.
However, the shocking truth is that 23 percent of women who experience some form of partner violence in their lifetime report that the violence first occurred when they were between 11 and 17 years of age, according to the 2011 Center for Disease Control nationwide survey.
Teenage abusers use the same methods to control and manipulate their partners, and teenage survivors feel the same anguish and fear as adult women.
The abuse Segovia experienced at the hands of her 17-year-old boyfriend followed a trajectory that adult survivors will find familiar: it started off with verbal abuse. You look like a slut.’ And then it escalated from there,” she said.
The physical violence began when her boyfriend picked her up from school one hot summer day and found her in a strapless dress. Soon thereafter, her boyfriend attempted to isolate her from friends and family and, if he didn’t succeed, he would drag her away at gunpoint.
If a teenager seems to have a surprising amount of sport-related bruises or cuts, it’s time to ask more questions.
An unhealthy attachment to a boyfriend/girlfriend It’s also important to watch out for the more subtle signs of an unhealthy relationship.
When the violence was at its worst, she remembers waking up one night with a gun at her head.
“His finger was on the trigger, and I didn’t know if it was loaded or not,” she said. But after that, I was just so scared that when he said things like ‘If you leave, I’ll kill you and your whole family,’ I thought he was capable of that.
Drugs and alcohol make it harder to keep your emotions in check and to make the right choices.
They also make it easier to act impulsively without thinking through the consequences.
She was only 13 when she met the man who would terrorize her for the next four years, and become the father of her first child.