Whatever you choose to do with your life now you’re choosing because you’re ready for it and not because it’s someone else’s idea of what you should be doing. Karen Finn, a divorce coach and advisor helping men just like you who want support in figuring out what life after divorce for men over 40 will be like for them.

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To forget, to have fun and to have somebody new to share their feelings with.

I gives something else and something new to focus on, instead of all the negative things from the divorce.

Most men don’t complete putting their grief and the emotional turmoil of divorce behind them until after they’ve started dating.

There’s something to say for knowing you’re still desirable that goes a long way toward rebuilding your confidence.

You’ll rediscover how to do the things that your wife used to do – like laundry, paying the bills, making doctor appointments and cooking.

The other big adjustment you make during this period is figuring out how to be a single dad and coparent. It isn’t easy to live without the sounds of your children at home every day or to be the only parent when they’re with you.

But they do not want to become too involved into each others family and friends. If this is the case, most of the time the couple decides not to move under one roof.

Others want to have a more intimate relationship in which they share and support each other in every aspect of life.

In my more than 10 years’ work with men over 40, I’ve yet to meet one who can immediately jump from being what he thought was happily married into the fabled life of a playboy.

(No, not even the men who cheated on their wives can easily do this.)Men over 40 need time to shift from being a family man to being a single dad because you can’t just erase the lifestyle you’ve had for years as easily as flipping a switch. Step 1: Figuring things out This is the time when you make all the big adjustments and learn to live on your own again.

If children are involved, the separated or divorced parents must be careful.