Being codependent is when you have let your actions, thoughts and feelings get tied up in someone else to the point that your very existence seems to hang on their actions.

Your SHOULDS might be totally optional to them– and often, even though you might feel like it’s life or death, they don’t quite share the same level of seriousness.

It’s simple, but often all you need to get reciprocation from someone is to ask.

It doesn’t matter if you’re tired, if you don’t want to, if you’re broke or you have to work, when he calls, you come, period.

You are allergic to “no.” You’ve blown off work, your friends and your family to hang out with the guy. To become stronger, it’s essential to establish proper boundaries. Too often we think that men are a limited time offer, where if we resist what they want in the moment, they will slip away forever. He will wait until your pottery class is over and find something else to do during your weekly girl’s night.

Maybe they said “that thing” and you didn’t speak up.

Or they stayed out all night and didn’t bother to let you know– even though you live together.

Keep in mind that your partner is not a mind reader.

They might have missed your “hints” and have no concept what you actually want from them.

Either way, if you don’t do at least one, the disrespect will only escalate and make you feel crappier by the day.

You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who treats you with respect.

There are a bunch of ways to be disrespected, but only two ways to make it stop.