Maybe saying hi at a party works just fine, but online daters aren’t so easily wooed.According to Ok Cupid, “Saying ‘Hey’ in a first message is almost equivalent to saying nothing — this greeting has an 84% chance of being completely ignored.” That first exchange sets the tone for the rest of the relationship, so you should go beyond one-word openers and say something to give your date a laugh.

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Some respond well to cocky, edgy openers some see right through that and call you out. Drone- this is the hardest for me because these girls want to keep everything boring and their profiles give you nothing to work with.

Ultimately 90% of it comes down to what you look like. Just cuts the bullshit since all that matters most the time is your look. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. I try to pick out one incongruent detail and hope that she will emerge from her shell.

Just gets things going in a more interesting way than "hey". I message girls that are clearly DTF by their answers but don't just go in there saying "yo piece of shit whore let me anal you" as they probably get that 10x a day.

I actually read their profile and respond to something I find interesting about it.

He replied, “So I guess the question at this point is, do you want the D?

” Which just goes to show that sometimes dick jokes can be done well if you’re clever enough.

Just gets things going in a more interesting way than "hey".

I messaged this to a girl one time and she responded with "I don't have much on my profile, but thanks..blah blah".

She had like 5-6 lines total on OKC but it doesn't matter.

Here it is: Now, when a girl visits your profile before you check theirs out I always send: "Hey!

I know this has been discussed on the ok cupid thread but that thread is vast and a summary on this specific question would be useful. A quick cold-read of their ethnic background works decently for me at getting replies. Recently I've been accusing them of looking like trouble. Wit plays well regardless, but fine-tuning your messages improve your response rate.