People assume that because they are with a person they know pretty well, they also know how their mate feels about these topics. Sit down with your husband to have this discussion.

Second, there's the issue of expectations you two have not discussed.

This situation underlines the importance of checking in with one's spouse or partner about the various aspects of long-term relationships: finances, in-laws, jobs, children (if any), housekeeping, plans, and sex. So, even though you said your vows and have been together for a while, it sounds like the topic of online chatting and surfing porn sites never came up.

Q: I made the mistake of clicking on a little email window that popped up on my husband's computer.

I discovered that he's been surfing porn sites and going to chat rooms to have sex with other women online.

The screen only lets you see what the other person wants you to see.

For all you know, there could be 20 guys in the room ready for the live show.

But guess what collegiettes, most of them are the same, especially those in college.

Make him wait to have you; then the urge will be that much stronger.

Another Skype sex danger is that guys can take a live video.