Avoid the pitfall: Check yourself before you name-drop—it almost never sounds good, Masini says.

As for that story about your buddies’ epic trip to Tijuana, save it for when you get together with them.

You don’t get a lot of leeway to mess things up when there’s no established relationship.

Sure, you have to tell her about yourself, but dominating the conversation by rambling about your life will make you look narcissistic.

Or worse: By not showing any interest in her, it can seem like you’re just waiting for the date to be over so you can get her into bed, Dr. Avoid the pitfall: What will impress her even more than learning about your accomplishments is seeing that you’re genuinely interested in hearing about .

What you’re actually showing her is that you’re super-touchy on first date. Avoid the pitfall: “On a first date, touch should be limited and only natural, friendly, and warm—not sexual,” says Carole Lieberman, M. In other words, it’s fine to take her hand to help her out of your car, or put your hand on her lower back to lead her through a crowded restaurant.

But don’t drape your arm around her neck and hold her close the entire time.

Explain that you’re totally willing to go dutch on your next date, but since they agreed to spend her evening with you, you’d like to get this one. They just wants to be equals and establish boundaries.

If they are really insistent, don’t be weird about it. And remember, just because you buy dinner does not, in any way, mean a person owes you anything; not a hug, a kiss, or sex.

Maybe you like to think of yourself as the strong, silent type—but all she sees is a guy who’s either emotionally closed off or super boring, Masini says.

She may not mind coaxing you out of your shell, but you have to give her to work with.

We’re all making money, it’s OK for partners to split the bill. If you’d like to pick up the check, be polite about it.

Avoid the pitfall: If it’s a first date, let them know that you’d really like to treat her.

If you’re not sure where to start, her job is usually a good bet.