“Her family of origin is intact with loving, stable relationships. They just don’t have the same level of stress.” Christa had to take on these realities as part of her own story, now that she had tied her life to Mike’s—they were not part of her experience before.

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Her husband, Dennis, is Chinese American, and she is from a white family. They don’t expect me to be Caucasian.” The occasional confused look is the least of the challenges faced by couples in interracial and intercultural marriages.

Being raised in different cultures means couples have to negotiate different communication patterns, agree on what they want for their mixed-race children, and learn to accept new traditions.

His mother struggled with finding housing and consistent work, his father was struck with a disability and now lives in a nursing home, and his sister suffers from a mental illness.

“Christa didn’t expect the level of challenges my family would present,” he said.

That’s what makes it work.” The Cultural Divide When a white person marries a person of color, they step into a new world.

Their spouse knows how to navigate both the culture of their own race as well as the mainstream majority culture in America.Having a bad father from your own people, is far worse than a good father from some other people. because that is how they lived where they were from. Suddenly she’s filing for divorce, 2 weeks after getting married. I knew one girl that got married, and found out after the honeymoon, she was expected to move in with him, and his parents, and his 3 brothers, and 2 sisters…. I’ve met a couple of girls that were very different race. Culture is a set of beliefs and standards, and norms that you expect, based on how you were raised.