She found one two years ago, and this year will be celebrating Valentine’s Day with her boyfriend.Mary, 31, a serial speed dater, has had less luck, despite spending five years on the market.

They can be mixed bag, either hit or a miss like everywhere.

But there are some specific traits which are common among HK girls. For hongkongers, foreigners usually means someone from western country with fairer skin, anyone with darker skin is considered inferior. If they are open to date foreigners, they mostly prefer westerners.

They consider whites to be richer then say locals or other races.

But if you are African, Indian or middle eastern and are rich, you might have a good chance.

It’s tough to find love in a city like Hong Kong, where the fast-paced grind endemic to any global metropolis is coupled with the culturally specific demands of parents pushing early marriage and a relatively conservative dating culture.

The frustrations of finding the perfect partner—and the pressure from parents to find one quick—have led many to seek speed dating and matchmaking services, where one session can cost up to 0. Wendy So, 23, spent hundreds of dollars on speed dating events in search of a serious relationship.

In Hong Kong, the gender ratio has become increasingly skewed, according to government data, with 921 males for every 1,000 females, compared to 971 to 1,000 a decade ago.

(Ten years before that, there were more men than women in the city.)“I’ve never known what it’s really like to be in a serious relationship,” Mary says.

Last but not least, there was the person who texted me at midnight asking for a Netflix and chill after I had ghosted them for forever. I also know Instagram-famous couples, as well as married couples, who have been secretly cheating on each other on Tinder for years (not so secret among their friend groups though). Not going to lie, part of me is trying to substitute lust for self-worth.