I was sitting firmly in the driver’s seat with mine, so much so that I became the leader of a Zionist youth movement, and started to mix with an idealistic new crowd. Things were getting serious, but I was ignoring the ramifications, because, you remember, I was not going to marry out.

In the Talmud, Rabbi Hillel warns us that we should be careful not to judge another person until we have stood in their place. Related Article: Why Not Intermarry The Heartthrob One night I went to a party for friends who had just returned from a year in Israel. So, unbelievably, on the first date we spoke about him converting. Soon I realized that I couldn’t practically hide it from my parents any longer.

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Our homes are where we nurture, and where our children learn to care. If you ask anyone that grew up with it, they will tell you the same thing: it’s the simple rituals that have the greatest impact.

Our homes are where we show our children what it is important to care about. Lighting Shabbat candles, decorating a sukkah or eating matzah on Passover, putting up mezuzahs on every doorway, laying some Jewish books proudly out on the coffee table, saying Shema Yisrael with our children, hanging out an Israeli flag on Israel’s Independence Day.

But there is only one reason to marry another Jew: Torah requires it.

Jewish day school, Jewish friends, a traditional Jewish home, Jewish holidays, Jewish ancestors, Jewish "culture", Jewish "values"...

The question is, are you going to be part of this exciting venture in history, part of the Jewish People, or are you going the way of those who stayed in Egypt, became Hellenists, Karaites, Sadducees, Reform and then Christian (like Mendelssohn's descendents). I'm a so called "gentile" and I would never break up with Jewish girl to preserve some misguided sense of "heritage". Are you a fan of arranged marriages too because this is only a small step above that. Now that those Jews who give up their "misguided sense of heritage " to intermarry are destroying themselves, only those Jews who cling to traditional Jewish practice including in-marriage are growing in number.

Good luck to you in your closed minded world For thousands of years since the Jewish nation left ancient Egypt, we have outlived the many empires and movements that tried to destroy or subjugate us. You are the mind that is "closed", closed to history, logic, and understanding of Judaism. I don't know if anyone will read the recent comments as it looks like it has been a while since anyone commented.

I don’t remember making conversation, but apparently I must have mumbled something, since the next morning the host of the party told me that Mr. As I was catching my breath, she casually mentioned, “Oh, I told him you don’t date non-Jews, and he’s fine with that. He really liked you.” This was a delicate situation, to say the least. Then we talked, and laughed, and talked and laughed some more. They should know me well enough to know that I wasn’t going to marry him. Not because we were in a public place, but because they were smart enough to think before they spoke.

Here I was, being pursued by a bona fide heartthrob with absolutely no strings attached. Dinner ended awkwardly, amidst the forlorn clinking of cutlery toying with barely eaten food. I had not seen him shed a tear since his mother passed away, over a decade before.

I believe this is the factor that can make the difference. We want our children to care about the meaning of being Jewish.

The factor that needs to be nurtured in our communities: caring. We need to nurture their Jewish identity to the point that it becomes innate.

I, in my bubble of optimistic self-gratification, and my father – mourning the potential loss of future generations. I felt the weight of my Jewish identity on my fragile shoulders. This is an event that took place almost two decades ago, but looking at today’s frightening assimilation statistics, it could have happened yesterday. Getting Back to Basics How do we practically go about nurturing a caring relationship with our Jewishness? Jewish educational institutions and community groups are the necessary lifelines that extend from our homes to our collective future.