Too fast in dating
What happens is we end up jumping into relationships with these people and maybe going several months, or maybe even several years, with these people when had we been more discerning, we probably wouldn’t have chosen these people to begin with.Some of the key culprits here are having sex too soon.
I want to slow down and just see you no more than three times a week.” At this time in the relationship, I was really nervous about it.
Is this person going to think I’m weird for asking this kind of a question?
Obviously making love is a very intense and intimate act.
So we’re feeling really close to people really soon. I also know for many of us that it’s hard not to have sex so soon, because oftentimes some of us are afraid of, “Well, if I don’t make love, maybe the person won’t be interested.” What I have to say to you is if you want to be in a long-term relationship and the person is really interested you and getting to know you, it’s going to be okay.
So when we do that too early, we often have these really deep experiences with this person and it makes us feel closer to them, but yet we might not really know them yet.
Another thing is that in the very beginning of the dating process, maybe after the first or second date, we feel really connected with this person.This is part one on the dating series that I’m doing.It’s primarily focused on those folks that move really fast through the dating process.Another thing that I find is – forget sex – but if we’re spending the night and somebody’s house and we wake up in the morning, it is so loaded with fantasy.You wake up in the morning and you’ve got the shower, you’ve got breakfast and it just feels like we’re living together, which ultimately, for most of us, it’s the big holy grail at the end of the relationship.The other would be really slowing down the amount of time you see each other. When I was younger and I was dating somebody, I remember that I was trying to do something very similar.