Men vastly underestimate how risky it can be for women to interact with dudes they don’t know, and the consequences of that reality. I mean, .) Perhaps contrary to popular belief, your job on a dating app is not to stand out, but rather to signal to someone that you’re not going to Buffalo Bill them.

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Said picture must not be blurry; If you only have a low-res Myspace ass photo of yourself, that’s what we in the business of sleeping with men call a red flag.

I’m not sure why, but it’s like someone decided that smiling, in-focus photos are unmanly. Quite the opposite.) If you don’t have any good photos of yourself already—this might be you!

Luckily for you, the bar for men on dating apps is truly subterranean, so you don’t have to change much about your approach to make a big impact, and I’m going to tell you exactly how to do it. Dating apps require someone to like one photo enough to look at more photos of you, and then like a good first picture.

Everyone who’s been on a dating app for more than two days has lamented how unfair the whole process is, as if they didn’t know that dating favors hot people. This is an entirely made up figure, but 87% of your profile is your first picture.

Instead, try telling people what you’re like in a playful way. “I listen to Christmas music all year round,” or “I can teach you to drive stick shift,” are great examples that also give your fellow swipers something to message you about.

What this means when you message: Don’t be overly eager to meet up with a woman; if we’ve only messaged 4 times within the app, I’m almost certainly not ready to meet you face-to-face yet.—ask a friend to take one of you the next time you guys Do A Thing.That can be brunch, a friends wedding, a baseball game—anything that offers an opportunity for good, natural lighting.What this means for your bio: Stop putting clichéd shit here.If you write “work hard play hard” or “looking for my partner in crime,” women are going to assume you’re similarly unoriginal in all aspects of your life, including in bed.Do not try to be clever, or overly familiar, e.g., “You look exactly like my next girlfriend.” Try opening with a question, and no, “wyd rn ;),” doesn’t count.