But that’s tricky because gals are torn over tab sharing: Some are reluctant to pay while others are adamant about their ability to pay.Our Money, Sex & Love survey illustrates that the question of who pays has gotten complicated. We do not edit the article beyond ensuring that it complies with the site’s format.

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Instead of relying on men to pick up the tab, it is great for women to step up and offer to pay their share of the dinner once in a while.

After all, first dates are about two people getting to know each other.

Most first dates come straight out of the pages of a 1920s romance novel, and after a man generously treats a woman, he still expects something in return.

Namely, he expects her to return the favor of paying. ) An Elle/survey of about 74,000 online readers found that most guys want gals to help with the check after a few free meals.

If a man and a woman are taking their time out of their busy schedules to meet, both of their times are equally important.

As the society is moving progressively towards gender equality, I believe it is time for us to rewrite the rules of modern dating.What rule of thumb do you go by for what seems like an archaic conundrum? Wasn’t life easier for everyone when the guy just paid for everything?Oh, right, that wouldn’t work for two gay men or two lesbians on a date.That’s why there’s a great rule: “You invite, you pay.” This is especially the case if you’ve chosen the restaurant as well as making the invitation.Also, consider these phrases as code for “I’ll pay”: “Please be my guest”; “It will be my treat”; “I’d like to invite you to join me…” and “Let me take you out to…” It’s good to remember your manners in any dating situation by offering to pay for yourself or contribute toward the tip, even when you know you’re the guest.Eventually, Elizabeth paid for the dinner and never returned his text.